Phases of a Betrayed Partner’s Recovery: Phase 3

Phase 3: Reconnecting & Growth

Healing happens in phases: (Adapted from Steffens, 2013; APSATS Model)

Phase 1: Safety & Stabilization

Phase 2: Grief & Meaning-Making

Phase 3: Reconnection & Growth

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Phase 3: Reconnecting & Growth

In this final phase, reconnection takes many forms—first with yourself, and possibly with your partner, if they are doing healthy recovery work.

Focus is on:

• Rebuilding trust

• Understanding trauma’s impact on your relationship

• Restoring emotional balance

• Exploring family of origin issues

• Creating a new shared vision for the future

You’ll also begin recognizing the three distinct but co-occurring recoveries:

• Your recovery

• Your partner’s recovery

• The couple’s recovery

This phase might feel far away right now—but I promise, it is possible.

With each small, courageous step, you empower yourself to grow stronger, wiser, and more whole than before.

Final Thoughts

Betrayal trauma shatters your world.
What once felt safe now feels dangerous.

Healing happens in phases: (Adapted from Steffens, 2013; APSATS Model)

• Phase 1: Safety & Stabilization

• Phase 2: Grief & Meaning-Making

• Phase 3: Reconnection & Growth

Your pain is real.
Your healing is possible.
You are not alone.

Next Steps

If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, know that support is available.

Reach out for guidance. You do not have to walk this path alone.

You are capable.
You are worthy.
You are more than enough.
You are strong, courageous, and brave.
You are empowered.
Healing is possible.

You have the strength to reclaim your life.